Tuesday, 29 May 2012


Having a family is always important. It is one of the most essential part of our lives and life gets really very hard without them. Parents, siblings, relatives all are quite equally important. Lets have a look at my family.
First of all my Father. He is a great man, loves and cares a lot, but can beat the whacko out of you if you are not implementing whatever he is ordering. He gives the ordinance and soon it becomes the law. He is very hard worker and has done a lot of favors to other people. However, I am not really that much connected with my Dad. He has been working for about 30 years in Saudi Arabia and I am in Pakistan. I spend hardly 3 to 4 months with him in a year. He calls me "Gullu Gulfaam"( don't know what does it means exactly but it surely is a good thing) and the "Gentleman" ( from which side do I look like a gentleman, oh well). He is never angry at me most of the time nad that is a superb thing. He calls me to Saudi Arab every year, thanks to his company where he works that they offer free air tickets to any three members of our family and that includes me :D. He really gets mad when i don't go to the Masjid or miss Salat deliberately. He is not very much open to jokes and is a very serious kind of a person. He came to Saudi Arab with the mission to earn enough money to get his sisters married and take his Mother ,my Dadi, to Hajj. He successfully got 3 of his sisters married and even took Dadi on Hajj. He himself has performed Hajj FIVE TIMES!!!! can you believe that :O. 
Then comes my Mother, the greatest of all women in my eyes. my mother taught me lot of things and helped me in times when I had lost hope or when I was tense or stressed. she always reassured me and help me keep calm and cool. She used to teach me that the tongue is a weapon sharper than swords so use it wisely. This is the truth, wounds afflicted by the tongue seldom heal rather they may bleed till you die or even if they do heal the pain and the mark shall be left forever. So we should be extremely careful not to offend anyone with our speech. She served me and my siblings even when she was afflicted with the deadliest of diseases. I don't even know the name of the disease, but it had weakened her muscles, all of them. She could not smile properly and had problems getting up on her feet and walking and sat on the floor rarely and even if she did I had to pick her up. Sadly the worst day of my life came of 28th of January Saturday. The memories of that day shall remain in my mind till I die. That day we went to a cousin's marriage. when it was time for dinner, I had only started eating when my cousin sister came to me and told me that something has happened to your mom. I ran for my mother and saw that she was choking on something she ate. She couldn't breath and in a matter of as few minutes she passed away. Now my life seems so empty and there is nobody to share my feelings to. Sometimes I do share my feelings but its seems that no nobody is interested in the depressive talk of mine so I change the subject myself even when I don't want to. I wanna tell so many things to others but nobody cares so why should I waste my time as well as their time?
Then comes my All rounder sister NIDA baji. she is very good, beautiful, hardworking and cheerful. She is great at teaching and she got married at 18th January 2006. Her husband's name is Sajjad and now she has two kids, Fatima and Mustafa Mashs'Allah. :).
Then comes Javeria baji. She has literally taken the place of my Mother after she passed away. She is sacrificing a lot just to take care of me and my other siblings. She manages the house very efficiently even when she also has to study. She is the Queen of the house and all the others are poor slaves. Whatever she orders has to be done. She makes me work like a maid in the house. Sometimes I have to chop the onions and tomatoes. Sometimes I gotta peel the potatoes and eggplants. Once she even told me to wash her abaya, scarf and socks. MAN!!! at least do this yourself (yaar kam az kam ye kaam to khud krlo, assra krlo bachey ki jaan ka). She has also made me a sweeper WOW! (-_-). she makes me such a lot at home but she is great anyway :D.
Then comes Bushra baji. She is an emotional softie like me. She has a hard cover but a soft heart( this is what we call Coconut nature, hard from outside and real soft inside). She calls me selfish if I ever refuse to help her in her university work. Let me tell you, if you want to get your BUM kicked real hard just be rude to bushra baji for a sec or maybe just show a little disrespect to her or be rude to her and then let the magic begin. She will ridicule you in such a way that even your upcoming 7 generations will also remember that HUMILIATING INSULT . Her anger can go to unpredictably high levels in a matter of seconds and something you never expected may happen to you. When she hates someone she really knows how to show her hatred. She rarely forgives people who have hurt her some way or another.
Then comes Omer bhaijaan. He is the best. He is a source of guidance for me with things related to the outside world and studies. He drives very well and is a very diligent person. He never delays work and is always there to help his siblings parents or relatives. He is very sensitive and is almost a robot like he can go to attend his coaching class after taking a nap of about an hour before which he had been awake for about 14 to 15 hours. He is The Best Big Bro anyone can ever have in this whole world :D.       
Then comes Salman (-_-) :S. The only problem in my life. Where ever I am, he is. He rarely leaves me alone and it seems to me that God has appointed him to keep a watch on me. Annoying me and asking me dumb questions is his only job. Annoying me (mujhe tapana) is his only purpose of life. Farooq what's that? who is he? who is she? what are you doing? can I use the PC? and an endless list of questions that never seems to end. If he hears a joke, he repeats it to me from morning till nightfall. Never leaves me alone and seems more like my personal bodyguard than younger brother. I hate the fact that he is my brother and I can do nothing to about it. He rarely obeys me and is always the first to object to whatever I say. Never gives me respect and is very irritating most of the time. My life seems so peaceful without him and I feel almost weightless and free when he is not around. The world seems to be wonderful. But  guess one day he will turn up to be the best member of our whole family, this is what javeria baji thinks, not me :). Hope is all I have for him that one day he would change, He is also very non serious about his studies.
Well that's all folks. Family is family no matter what they do or how much they annoy you you still gotta cope up and adjust with them and well that's all you can really do. They may kick your ass, insult you, make you work like a slave girl, but at the end of the day you realize that they are the only one who will be sincere to you even in the most difficult of times and they are never gonna leave you. My world is only limited to some relatives, some teachers, some friends and closest to me are my siblings and Dad.   

This post has gone way too far so i'll stop writing now. By the way i would like to quote something by Christopher Lasch here:  "The family is a haven in a heartless world."           

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